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It's not really possible to keep your cool all the time. Even if you are the world's most wonderful parent, you will admit that certain behaviour of your kids can annoy you. Imagine you are in a mall and you loose your cool. You yell at your kid and probably hit him. Suppose you do this in the trial room so nobody notices. What impact will this make on your child? Fear is often used as a method to impose a certain behavioural pattern in young kids, but it always backfires. They will not only resent you for this but such abuse can be emotionally scarring and affect your kid's psyche.
The first thing you do after an outburst is accept. Accept your behaviour in front of your kid and apologize for yelling. Give a reason for what caused the yelling. Elaborate on it later after you are calm. You could say something like this, “I am sorry for yelling at you like that. I was disappointed in your behaviour and carelessness. Even so, I shouldn't have yelled. It was wrong and I am sorry.”
It is during such times that your parenting skills are truly tested. Parents and kids will always have fights, misunderstandings and episodes of outbursts. What is important is how such situations are handled. These could be the building blocks that will form a stronger and deeper bond with your kid.